Nurture your own soul~
“In the present world of time, woman has come to take the role of nurturing others. A balance must be found. The Earth Mother is ready and willing to nurture her daughters but her daughters must insist on taking the time they need to receive that nurturance themselves.”
~Jami Sams from The Thirteen Original Clan Mothers
In order for us to be able to be the the best mothers we can be, we must not neglect to care for ourselves and nurture our own souls. We must create a strong inner rhythm and structure that supports and nourishes the time we need for ourselves.
Below is a wonderful excerpt from Sharifa Oppenheimer from her book, Heaven on Earth…
“The question each parent must keep alive as we raise our children is, ‘How do I care well for myself, so that I can care well for them?’ Adults, too, need good solid sleep, nourishing food, enough exercise and a sense of purpose in life. Each parent has to find her own way, and create rhythms for herself, just as we create them for our children. This is not a luxury; it is a job requirement.
“We know our children imitate not only everything we do, but also the very way are human beings. They imitate us from the most concrete activities to the subtlest essence of our being. This can be a paralyzing thought! If, however, we approach ourselves with the same humor and compassion we offer our children, we will be able to appreciate our successes in finding balance, and take our failures in stride as we learn form them.”
“Another doorway to balance your inner rhythm is to participate in some activity that truly nourishes you. It is easy for parents to say, ‘But caring for my family and enjoying the happiness this brings is nourishing for me.’ This may be true, but before you had children, there were activities that you loved, that nourished you. Find a way to keep them in your life. Or discover new ways to yourself the satisfaction this brings.
“Your children need a role model who knows how to find joyful connection with himself and the world. Whether you love to play guitar or attend the opera, whether you love to bicycle or bird watch, give yourself these moments. Eventually, sharing what you love with your children will show them how to keep this place of childlike delight open in their own hearts as they mature through life. And your enthusiasm will spill over into all the daily tasks you do with and for them.”
~Sharifa Oppenheimer, Heaven on Earth: A Handbook for Parents of Young Children
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Sarah says:
May 25, 2013
Oh, what a wonderful post…and something that is so hard to do for new mamas…thanks for the reminder. It seems like even if it’s putting out the intention when you think you can’t, that’s a step in the right direction.
Holly Tisdell says:
Sep 10, 2015
I have a six year old little fireball that is a great helper to her twin baby sisters that are 17 months old. I am slowing understanding what it means to nourish myself again so I can be 100% for them. My husband is making a big sacrifice for me in a few more days so I can go to a training with Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes; so I can go home! I’m excited and it is much needed but I was curious to know if there are these types of gatherings for mother and children??