Rite of Passage~
The pregnancy period is one of the most potent, growth periods in our evolution. I always describe it as a speedway to enlightenment…and let me just follow that by saying the road is not always easy. Things come up. In order for us to grow and evolve, we have to continue to move through our issues, and when you become pregnant, you are preparing yourself in every way, mind, body and soul, to transition into the next phase of your life.
We have in our collective memory this image of pregnant mammas gliding happy and free. At least that how most of us idealize it to be, and at times in the pregnancy we do experience this state of bliss…but for most of us, specially at the beginning, there is a period of readjustment, of self-tuning, fine-tuning that takes place in order to align our energy with that of our new baby.
The transition from maiden to MOTHER is huge and issues are bound to surface. Welcome them! This is normal, we all experience this. What comes up has to be embraced and dealt with sooner than later. The more you deal, the more you clear, and the easier the birth will be.
Pregnancy, Motherhood is a RITE OF PASSAGE and YOUR BIRTH IS YOUR VISION QUEST. Particularly, if you go the natural way, with a “natural” birth. The experience is major in every way no matter how you do it, but when you have a natural birth you really undergo the “passage.” In mythic context, it is what Joseph Campbell called the “hero’s journey.” This is when you undergo an experience that is so profound it is as if you journey to the center of the earth, the core of reality, where you overcome challenges and fears, and return transformed and redefined by the experience.
Birthing is truly a hero’s journey for every mother and it is a life-defining gift. I cannot put in to words the tremendous gain, the power that was activated in me, through my birth. (when I said my birth, I mean my birthing into my mammahood as well as my birthing a being into this world!)
We cannot shrink away from our destiny. We must plant our feet in the ground, feel our roots extending to the core of the earth, lift our eyes to the blue skies above, feel the sunshine kissing our face and know that we are women, and we have the power to overcome anything, because we are whole. We represent the earth mother, the divine mother, love energy personified.
We, each in our own way, shine forth the qualities of strength, power, resourcefulness, abundance and unconditional love. We are the salt of the earth, the roots and the branches, we are WOMEN, we are MOTHER…realize! Our time has come.
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Rebecca Moebius says:
Jul 1, 2011
Beautifully said Mijanou. I just found out I am pregnant with a fourth spirit. It has been challenging to wrap my head around, but as I read your words, I found a sweet surrender beginning in my psyche. This is beautiful, and worth the wait.
mm says:
Jul 1, 2011
Congratulations mamma!! Oh, I’m, so happy for you! You always made it look so easy and are such a beautiful reflection of “mamma”, in its fullest expression. That little light is blessed to have you, and with your awareness, kindness and love you will gently guide them into this world! The healer Howard Wills says,” Spiritual people need to have babies! They need to pass on the intelligence, the seed.” I am so moved by your comment and so grateful that it touched you. All my love~~~~~
Wend says:
May 8, 2012
Wonderfully written – really touched my soul and touched a cord with me after having 2 children and finding birth so extraordinary. We’ve had a rough time since the births and have a very intense first born girl and now a boy who brings challenges as No. 2 and I hear Mums with 2 under 2 saying that they are finding it easy but I am finding it incredibly challenging – in another country with limited support however I also know that this parenting process, like the transition from Maiden to Mother, is all about awakening issues of the inner child that constantly come up for healing – hence the difficulties and feeling of intensity…and your blog was a timely reminder of that too. Thank you. I needed to hear that.
Tara says:
May 10, 2013
I just found your website and I am so happy. I just found out I am pregnant and I couldn’t be more happy or feel more blessed to be a part of the most beautiful process on earth. I cannot wait to learn and grow from it all. Thank you for this post! It enlivens and strengthens my spirit. I know I am doing something incredible!
Ali says:
Jan 14, 2014
As I read these beautiful words, I wonder if you might be able to share some thoughts and insight with those of us who longed so deeply to have the experience of natural child birth but were unable to do so. I am so blessed with an amazing child who brings me light and love and lessons everyday. Yet two years after his birth I still struggle with memories from the experience. How lucky am I to have a healthy perfect little boy? I know this, and am so so grateful. But I still feel the pain and disappointment from the birth experience. I had planned for a home birth but had an induced labor that resulted in a c-section, and ultimately my darling boy. I know this shapes who I am, who he his, and our journey together, but I still have such a hard time wrapping by head and heart around it all. And we are still dealing with the insurance repercussions which brings it up often and is still quite unsettling. I so longed for one thing, and experienced another. I feel the weight of this, and long to lift it. Any shared wisdom is greatly appreciated. Many thanks!
mm says:
Jan 14, 2014
Dearest Ali~ Thank you for sharing~ I hear you and I am sure there are so many mammas resonate with how you feel and your experience. My feeling has always been that each baby chooses the way he or she will come into the world. So much is beyond our control. We can make choices that are aligned with what we wish for, or what we might consider to be the best possible outcome, but ultimately that soul will come when and how he/she has chosen to come. My advice to new mammas is always to surrender, trust and allow. Ultimately as you said, know and feel, you have your little angel in your arms and that is truly the most important thing. Your experience, exactly how it went down, as it was, was your rite of passage, no matter what. Becoming a mother is the activation, no matter how it happens. In becoming a Mother you cross over into Mammahood, no longer a maiden. You know this, it’s something that can’t be described but only experienced when you go through it. The change from Maiden to Mother is major and that is the activation. So my advice would be to bless your birth experience for what it was. No blame, no regret, nothing was missed, it was perfect as it was. In embracing it, you surrender to the greater unfoldment of Life and you trust in it. All the feelings that have arisen form it are ok. Feel them and then release them. Bless the whole experience with light, honor it for what it was, and give yourself a lot of love! Sending you big hugs! ~mm
ali says:
Jan 30, 2014
Thank you. I appreciate your words so much. I most cherish the notion that becoming a mother is the activation, the transformation, that the change from maiden to mother is the rite of passage. I find that soothing. As I read your response I realize there is a part of me that felt it was a *right* of passage… in other words, my right to have my baby in this beautiful natural way that I envisioned, that somehow I was entitled to a particular experience. It only now strikes me that part of me felt I was owed this experience, on my terms… if I did the meditation and envisioning and believing. What a powerful shift of perspective for me. I know will this will help me welcome surrender more and more into my consciousness. I am grateful and humbled. And I know this lesson will come up again and again (it did just today!). Surrender. Allow. Trust. Many thanks! Sending love and light!
Matoula says:
Oct 14, 2014
Ηello! i just discovered i am pregnant two weeks ago and i am so amazed i found your site. I feel so glad about this movement from you!I am only at the start but i experience a great transition in my life and i feel so blessed! I feel blessed that a soul chose us with my husband to be our child, a great amount of responsibility and happiness at the same time. I feel so glad about this movement from you too! Your care with your words help our sisters around the world to experience their transition to motherhood as it has to be!Thank you!
Nicole says:
Jan 19, 2015
I absolutely loved this and definitely feel this shift occurring within myself as my partner and I prepare for our first pregnancy. I love the way you write; it speaks directly to my soul and my higher Self. Thank you for sharing!
Nicole
Teresa Calcutta says:
May 19, 2015
We should not discriminate against women who do not have this so called right of passage as all humans are on a important spiritual journey whether they have children or not. Some mothers are terrible and some non mothers are more giving and spiritual. Birth is not a right of passage, it’s part of what animals do, it does not make someone more blessed.